I just overheard a coworker saying “Oh, I would never try that in my life!”, in a discussion of food. (This was about consuming a steak cooked less than medium well). It made me wonder what life is like for those who refuse to try new food, especially those who refuse to try mundane things like fried shrimp.
Why limit yourself? It seems like such a closed-minded way to view food. Help me understand?
If the texture/flavor triggers my gag reflex and I can’t physically swallow, the question is not “why am I limiting myself?” but rather, “why would I attempt to abuse myself?”
Trying new food can be risky, its not cheap and if you cant eat it you just wasted your money and the food. Food also takes time to prepare which you may not have the time to make or order something else which then can snowball into larger issues. Not to mention the social pressure/judgment to finish a meal you wish you could force down your throat and getting accused of being dramatic and wasteful.
I like to try new foods here and there but I need to be able to get a small portion to avoid waste and know theres a back up I can eat to avoid skipping a meal altogether. It also needs to be with a crowd that I feel safe enough with not to get shat on if I cant eat it.
That being said I can only imagine making a blanket statement that I’d never try something if I already know it’s very similar to something else that I can’t eat.
I don’t consider myself a picky eater but there’s stuff I don’t like. I don’t like the kinda sweet after taste of bell peppers so I avoid them if possible. Sea snails, it was an unpleasant texture and the taste was too bland to counter. Land snails, I’m in no rush to go to taste them, maybe one day if I get the chance, there are plenty of restaurants near me that have them on the menu.
Slimey vegetables make me gag.
I’m a picky eater, but I will try things and do like a lot of different foods, but once I try something and don’t like it, it gets added to the “nah” list, and there’s a bunch on that list and some is “normal” stuff. For example, fuck green bell peppers, red bell gang all day.
I’ve always been a picky eater before meeting my husband, who has vastly opened me up to new foods.
I grew up in a household that could not cook. Pepper was too spicy, boiled frozen chicken breasts, potatoes, and carrots in water with no seasonings was a staple “soup”. And of course my mom never taught me to cook, so if it didn’t come in a package I didn’t know how to make it. I was also poor, which limited my ability to be adventurous in my food. If I got something and I didn’t like it, I’d be out of food for a period of time.
So I played it safe, and it became the norm. But being poor I also couldn’t resist free food, so my husband lured me out of my comfort zone by giving me food he made for himself. He also sneaked a lot of things into my food, like pepper, because he knew I wasn’t allergic, just picky. Over time I got better about it.
But there are some foods I still cannot stand. Fruit for one. I literally don’t even bother trying fruit, because every single fruit I eat makes me gag, it feels like rotten sweet goop and makes me want to throw up. People called me picky and dramatic, it wasn’t until I was 33 that I was diagnosed with OCD and food texture issues specifically around feeling of rot are a common manifestation of that.
I’m better than I used to be, and I try to eat a bite of something at least twice before deciding I don’t like it. But there is still a lot I don’t like so I’m still pretty picky I guess.
I wouldn’t eat coconut for years because when I was 7 I was eating a bag of coconut shavings and my dad and uncle convinced me they were toenail clippings.
I think of myself as an adventurous eater and my tastes and grown less picky over the years. But the few last idiosyncrasies I have are just about texture and sweeteners which can ruin the experience of eating for me.
Sweeteners I won’t know about until the food is in my mouth but if I can see something has the consistency of creamed corn, there just isn’t going to be a flavor or aroma that saves it for me.
I consider myself a picky eater, although my tastes have evolved over the years. There are certain types of food that I have never liked (but will eat). I do not like extremely bland food, like cooked potatoes or certain cooked vegetables. What I also dislike is food that tastes processed, like store bought pasta sauce. I do try almost every food.
Your colleague just sounds narrow-minded. Their loss.
I am not a picky eater, and also dislike those things
For me, personally, ADHD plays a part in my food. I crave routine.
wHy LiMiT yOuRsElF
You think I want to live like this? That I’m choosing to? Bewildering.
When offered a new food, you can take it or not.
Since you seem to identify as one who would CHOOSE not to eat it, explaining why you MAKE THAT CHOICE is probably more what they were looking for, as opposed to cryptic sarcasm that leaves us with more questions than answers.
Like I said, I don’t choose to be this way. I do wish I could try more things but most foods make me gag before they’re anywhere near my mouth.
You could choose to eat poop, but you would never because that’s disgusting, so would you really call that a “choice”?
Absolutely. And if someone asked why I choose not to eat poop, I would tell them because it’s highly unsanitary and carries diseases. Besides, the flavor is not enjoyable and it provides little to no nutritional value, so there really is no reason to eat it.
Your turn.
It seems that the question was not directed at you, based on your response.
You asked “picky eaters of Lemmy” and got a response from one.
Eh, fair.
Disgust is an emotional response. No one can choose their emotions.
Uh, yes, in fact thats one of the truly few things in life that you have absolute choice and power over, is your emotions and how you react to things. Most people learn emotional regulation as children.
You absolutely can choose your emotions. It’s sort of terrifying that people seem to agree with this statement.
So when someone you love dies, you can just… choose not to grieve, huh?
You can choose to focus on the positive aspects of their life and your relationship, yes. That’s not exactly the same as not grieving but it isn’t allowing your emotions to drive your actions either.
Either way, that’s quite a bit different than taking a bite of food you don’t like, isn’t it?
Choose? No.
Adjust over time? Maybe.
it’s called control… and it’s very easily controllable.
Unless you have ARFID
Growing up, my family has always accused me of being a picky eater, and it comes up every time we’re eating together. Every family get-together, it’s always a big deal whether I’m going to eat the prepared meal or not. My sister especially likes to offer to make a separate meal just for me because I’m “sooo picky!”
I can’t get it through their skulls that I’m less of a picky eater than they are - I’m just vocal about the very few specific foods I decided I don’t like. Which happens to be in a lot of recipes my extended family makes.
I spent 20 years traveling the world with the US military and I made it a point to try local cuisine everywhere I went. I became a bit of a foodie, and some of my favorite foods are from foreign countries. Every time family members came to visit me in other countries, I’d spend half of their visit just introducing them to amazing cuisine in the local area.
We’d eat out practically every day to give them a taste of the local culture. And surprisingly, most of them didn’t care for it. They wanted their “American food” instead. They weren’t very adventurous when it came to trying new things. There’s nothing worse than going to a ramen shop in Japan or a döner shop in Germany and having your family ask if we can go find a McDonald’s instead.
But sure, I’m a picky eater because I’ve hated squash since I was a child, and that’s apparently a staple of every family banquet.
It kinda sounds like they are intentionally putting squash in everything just for the opportunity to pick on you.
I can relate. My mom would make little snide comments about how i was a picky eater and how i would check everything i took out of the fridge.
One time i got sick of hearing it and biting my tongue so i went off.
I told her, her cooking was fucking terrible and she never cleaned out her fridge so there would always be rotting food in there. She was a Brit who grew up in that countries decade long depression.
Hey same, except my mom’s mom went through the depression here in the states and it rubbed off on her.
She loves to call out how particular I am about food, when actually I love trying new foods! I simply don’t like getting food poisoning from whatever hot dish/casserole she made 4 months ago that has been sitting in the fridge. At Christmas one year she brought out canned whipped cream, rediwhip, and it was 3 years expired! I didn’t notice and was sick for a week!
I will eat literally anything that can be considered food/edible.
My wife accuses me of being a picky eater, but I don’t think I am; I try to avoid eating mammals as much as possible (but if I’m at a party and that’s what’s being served or if there’s leftover that will just go in the trash, it’s fair game) and don’t like anything with ricotta cheese in it. I’m also a bit weary of mozzarella unless it’s cold or on pizza. That’s about it tho. She’s a pescatarian, but doesn’t like fish(so really just shrimp and plant based proteins provided they don’t taste like meat) and is watching her cholesterol, so trying to avoid foods that are high in saturated fat. That generally narrows down our food choices on its own, so when she asks me what I want for a meal, I try to take that into consideration first and then try to figure out what I’m in the mood for out of what’s left, so I guess that makes it seem like I’m the picky one.
The pickiest eater I know is a super taster. I can understand why they would be more picky. I have read that it may be a survival adaption. That is, if you have one super taster in every community, they may be the first to realize the food supply is poisoned or tainted somehow and warn everyone else.
I know people who are sort of the opposite extreme. Some like spicy food because everything else tastes like nothing. My dad, who lived to 100, said towards the end that the only thing he could still taste well was orange juice.
I’m a super taster and adore spicy food but I can’t eat a lot of common things like onions, or drink tea, coffee, beer, or wine. Seltzers(because I can taste bitter 2 flavor profile) are also off limits and anything fermented tastes like rotting.
So while in some aspects I could be considered a picky eater, I’ve also traveled the world pretty extensively and have eaten street food in several developing nations
Hmm… I don’t like coffee, beer, or wine either, though tea is ok I guess? Specifically, I find coffee and beer too bitter and wine too acidic. There is something else in the flavour profile of coffee too that turns me off, but I’m not sure what it is? And for some reason, red wine invariably gives me a headache, so when forced to drink for some social occasion, I always go with white.








