Saw this one on Reddit (don’t judge haha) and thought I would see what the collective of Lemmy thought!!

  • TheReanuKeeves@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    When people don’t generally initiate a conversation with you, it means you’re either not very attractive or attractive enough for a lot of people to be intimidated

    • randomcruft@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
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      3 days ago

      Interesting perspective. So it could still be a toss up on attractiveness. We shouldn’t assume sounds like the lesson here.

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        3 days ago

        Ya kinda like how over and underwatering plants can share similar symptoms. If you ask a conventionally attractive person if they get asked out a lot, they will often say no because people expect them to either be in a relationship already or to be rejected.

        what’s important to remember at the end of the day is that you likely scratch the itch for some people out there. Some people are attracted to qualities that you may think are unattractive and a lot of the times being able to break the ice with someone puts you ahead of the vast majority of other people.

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      Yep. Balance. More generally it’s all about social calibration. Get a good idea of where you are, then aim for the comfortable middle.