(Women used to use bumble a lot but like 90% of them were always marked as “just looking for friends” rather than hookups on their profiles)
I’d just like to say, as a woman who used dating apps a lot in my young 20s, I didn’t put “looking for hookups” even when that’s what I wanted. If a woman puts on her profile that she’s looking for hookups, some guys become scarily entitled. For some reason some people think “wanting a hookup” means “I will fuck anyone who asks.” Which is… quite the bizarre leap. Add in, such profiles get inundated with messages - some guys will react poorly if ignored, while others will react poorly if responded to but then rejected. It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation, with some unhinged folk who have your picture, name, and know what town you live in.
I quickly realized it was a bad idea and never chose that option on a dating profile again.
I figured, but also now theres just straight up separate pools I think. When you create an account one of the settings is specifically “looking for friends”. Part of “the game” I’m glad I dont have to race around trying to play anymore tbh. (But yeah no I get totally sucks on the women’s end too for the opposite reason it sucks for men)
dating sites, apps, “pickup games” draws out the creeps around women, aka “nice guys”. i happened to overhears a family member who binges on pickup material, and i noticed alot of the “artists” or people become from mildly offended to passive aggressive when they get rejected. its probably the passive aggressive that women should look out for.
I’d just like to say, as a woman who used dating apps a lot in my young 20s, I didn’t put “looking for hookups” even when that’s what I wanted. If a woman puts on her profile that she’s looking for hookups, some guys become scarily entitled. For some reason some people think “wanting a hookup” means “I will fuck anyone who asks.” Which is… quite the bizarre leap. Add in, such profiles get inundated with messages - some guys will react poorly if ignored, while others will react poorly if responded to but then rejected. It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation, with some unhinged folk who have your picture, name, and know what town you live in.
I quickly realized it was a bad idea and never chose that option on a dating profile again.
I figured, but also now theres just straight up separate pools I think. When you create an account one of the settings is specifically “looking for friends”. Part of “the game” I’m glad I dont have to race around trying to play anymore tbh. (But yeah no I get totally sucks on the women’s end too for the opposite reason it sucks for men)
dating sites, apps, “pickup games” draws out the creeps around women, aka “nice guys”. i happened to overhears a family member who binges on pickup material, and i noticed alot of the “artists” or people become from mildly offended to passive aggressive when they get rejected. its probably the passive aggressive that women should look out for.